Who are you? What’s your favorite color? Favorite food, artist, song, restaurant etc? These are the questions that we ask others when we’re getting to know them, but when was the last time you asked yourself? Getting to know yourself is very crucial to a healthy mind and body. Before you can advance in any romantic relationship you have to be completely comfortable with who you are as an individual. Knowing what you like and dislike about yourself, can play a major factor in what you are willing to accept from another person. It’s important to understand your boundaries, if you set the standard for yourself first it’ll be easy to know when someone has crossed a line with you.
Getting to know yourself can come in many forms; doing what you love alone, going out to eat alone, or going to the movies alone. Notice I keep repeating the word alone. You can’t get to know yourself if you’re always with someone else. It would be harder for someone to make you feel as though you wouldn’t be happy without their presence. The more you know about yourself, the clearer you are able to see your perfections and your imperfections. If you know your perfections you can enhance them and if you know your imperfections you can change/embrace them.
I’m telling you this from experience (per usual) I wasn’t comfortable in my own skin so I went through a lot of different phases. I was unaware of my perfections and I focused on my imperfections. How I walk, my style, my hair, my skin problems, and believe it or not my intelligence. I felt different and out of place all of the time, because I was trying to be someone I wasn’t. I wanted to dumb myself down and shrink just so no one would notice me, but I couldn’t live like that. It took me cutting off my hair and starting my natural hair journey, to finally be content with who I am. Hiding was no longer an option, not that it worked anyway.
Moral of the story is learn to love yourself at whatever stage of life you are in. You may be used to a younger you, or the you that was smaller/bigger, or the you that was stronger/weaker. But think of it this way if we never evolved and always stayed the same, there would be nothing new to discover. In my weight gain and loss I found a strength I never knew I had. I forced myself to love all of me without condition. Be you, be confident and never let anyone tell you you’re not worthy!
I like sharing my personal experiences with the world, because my hope is to help others reach their true potential. We all are special in our own right! Do what comes natural to you and develop that into something tangible. We are all waiting to marvel at your gift that you’ve been hiding from us.