Let’s Discuss Natural Hair!

Natural hair is beautiful! (When you take care of it) A big pet peeve of mine is when someone says natural hair isn’t for everybody. How can something that grows from your scalp NOT be for you? Just say you don’t want natural hair and leave it at that! Natural hair needs to be nurtured and properly cared for in order for you to see any growth. (I am not an expert in anyway shape or form)

1. Over-relaxing your hair can and will damage your hair follicles, causing very little growth.

2. Using too much heat can also damage your hair. Use a heat protectant and try not to flat-iron your hair too often.

3. Moisture. Moisture. Moisture. Your hair needs a water-based moisturizer to survive, just like you need water to survive.

4. Get to know YOUR hair and what it needs and tend to it like a garden.

Getting to know my hair has been a jour-ney, you don’t even know half of what I’ve done to my hair. I burned it off (twice) and cut it off a few times when I was younger, then I was getting a tapered cut in 2010. My hair was double-relaxed in 2012 that caused most of my hair in the middle to fall out. I transitioned (letting my natural hair grow out while still having relaxed ends) in 2012 because I had to wait for my hair to grow back and big chopped in 2013. Fact: My best friend at the time and I cut our hair off and we didn’t even know the other did it! I had my hair flat-ironed by a stylist for graduation and ended up having to cut off my damaged ends that same year. I learned to love myself dearly and that I wasn’t taken proper care of my hair AT ALL!

But wait there’s more. In 2016 I straightened my hair and cut off any hair that was below my ears. Lol I know that sounds strange, but it wasn’t growing like I wanted it to so I tried something different. I love wigs so I used to use the front and back combs to secure it, but the back combs started to tear out my hair. So in 2017 I cut off the entire back of my hair and had an unprofessionally done undercut. BUT that changed my hair pattern in the back to a looser texture (my hair is a 4c). That brings us to now! I am now in the process of loc-ing my hair, which is an uphill battle especially with my looser texture in the back. I also discovered that I have scalp psoriasis which explains all of the problems that I’ve had with my scalp. I started using a medicated shampoo and oil that changed my life! It was hard to manage and all of these years I thought my hair was just extremely dry.

I said all of this to say that loving your hair and caring for it isn’t simple. Especially when you have no experience with natural hair, but I promise it’s worth it.


Good morning! I love natural hair discussions so feel free to comment and share your thoughts. All comments are welcome regardless of how your hair is right now.

Published by Mariah Eskridge

Hello I'm Mariah Eskridge and my goal is to encourage those who otherwise wouldn't have the support. I graduated from Illinois State University in May 2019 with a Bachelors Degree in Marketing and Accounting. I've been faced with plenty of situations that I would've loved having someone that I can relate to.

4 thoughts on “Let’s Discuss Natural Hair!

  1. It’s sad that black women need to go on a ‘journey’ to accept what’s growing from our scalp. I hope we can break this cycle and start loving our hair from the beginning ❤️ great post

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      1. Spot on! Unlearning the behaviour of our parents is crucial, but I’m hoping the surg of more black women accepting their natural trickles down to generations to come


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