Societal Influence vs. Real Life Influence

In today’s world we are all influenced by what’s going on around us. Whether by social media or our parents/family members, the environment that surrounds us dictates who we’ll become. In light of recent events I felt it was necessary to weigh in without “weighing in” if you know what I mean.

Scenario: Father hires a prostitute to perform sexual acts on his son and apparently nephew. There are people who see absolutely no fault in what the father has done. There are also people who find it inappropriate and completely unorthodox (I am one of them). Those who see no fault in his actions, are also comparing it to women supporting female rappers whose lyrics may not be appropriate and who portray a certain lifestyle.

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Now that you know what I’m talking about, we can get into it! That is the most ridiculously stupid load of crap I have ever heard. The female rappers are grown women who are simply living their lives exactly how they want. Yes, anyone living in the public eye has a responsibility to watch what they do and say in order to preserve the innocence of our youth. The problem with that is you can’t shield them from everything, they WILL be exposed to more things than my generation or any before. They have access to anything they want practically whenever they want. BUT these celebs aren’t raising your children or at least they shouldn’t be. If you don’t want your child imitating what others do, be their first role model.

You have control over what YOU expose them to. Your child will remember what you two did together so make it count! Make museums, parks, and just casual outings cool again. Educate them on black culture and there is more to black culture than just rap videos and entertainers. Read to them and eventually with them. Show them more of the world than even you have seen. That way when they see these entertainers doing what they do, they’ll understand that they’re just entertaining. (Most) adult women watching women rappers understand that we can’t just judge them by their jobs. We know that some of them are educated, mothers, and actually quite demure in real life. It’s a role that they’re playing just like actors and actresses, don’t believe the hype.

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As for the man who exposed his child to that sort of behavior, he ruined his child’s innocence. In case you were wondering the child is 16 years-old. If a boy or a girl is going to participate in any sexual act, it should, 1. be with someone his own age and 2. when he is ready. You’ve set the standard for how he views women, himself, and the world. Not only that, but it was with a grown women! In my book that was predatory and in a way molestation, and I don’t care if he enjoyed it or not. Parents, you are your child’s first and only real influence. They see you day in and day out, they look up to you and most of the time want to be just like you. If you’re not showing them right from wrong, how are they supposed to know the difference when they’re out in the world?


Hey thanks again for reading! I refrained from using specific names just to be safe. This is more of a hobby and I’m not trying to get sued over something I do for fun. If you haven’t noticed I’m not really doing themes it’s too much work lol. See you Wednesday!!!

Published by Mariah Eskridge

Hello I'm Mariah Eskridge and my goal is to encourage those who otherwise wouldn't have the support. I graduated from Illinois State University in May 2019 with a Bachelors Degree in Marketing and Accounting. I've been faced with plenty of situations that I would've loved having someone that I can relate to.

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